Romans 8:28 and our miscarriage

July 31st, 2012

Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” We experienced this to a newer deeper level recently.

Several months ago my wife Larissa fell pregnant and we were really excited. As our girls were getting older we were looking forward to having another baby.

Then we went for our first scan at nine weeks. The look on the Radiographers face said it all. The baby had not progressed past the 7 weeks and 2 day mark. There was not movement or heartbeat. Things did not look good. We went home and prayed for God’s will to take place. Not our will, but God’s will, as it is ALWAYS better.

We went back to the Doctor and had some blood tests and another scan which confirmed the baby had died. We prayed again and asked for guidance. After getting all the information we prayerfully decided to let things happen naturally and waited for a miscarriage. We did not want to have a “procedure” and take medication to hasten the outcome.

The miscarriage took about four weeks to happen. In this time we waited, trusted God and prayed. It was a time when we didn’t understand why this was happening, but we trusted God and Romans 8:28.

The strange thing about this whole process was that it was a sad time and a very spiritual time at the same time. We grieved the loss of our child, but we felt very close to God. His presence was very strong and it felt like He carried us the whole time.

As we were open and honest about this process as we were going through it, we found that there are a lot of women who have experienced the same thing. Many women have spoken to us privately and told us of this happening once or twice to them. They were able to help us and we were able to help them.

Another great thing was the people who rallied around us to pray. We felt the prayers of our local church and our Christian friends. We felt carried through the whole process. It was like we were in a plane flying above the storm clouds. Yes we had our moments, but most of the time we soared high above. It was incredible.

While we don’t fully understand why this happened we trust God does know. He has a bigger and grander plan for our lives than we can ever fully understand. We do not know the future, but we know Who holds our future and He is an amazing awesome wonderful God.

God Bless,

Dave