Fathers, do not exasperate your children

April 13th, 2010

Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord”. Exasperate is not a word that is used in everyday conversation these days. So what does it mean?

Dictionary.com tells us that to exasperate someone is to “to irritate or provoke to a high degree; annoy extremely” or to “to make very angry or impatient”. So as a Father, to exasperate your child would be to wind them up, to make them very angry or to inflame a situation and make it worse.

So as a Father, what are some better options if our kids are feeling stressed, angry or emotional at you or the world they live in? Here’s a few positive options.

1. A big hug – sometimes a big hug is the best way to calm down a situation. It gives your child resassurance that you are there with them and you care about what they are going through.

2. A big talk – sometimes kids get all mixed up and frustrated in their emotions or how they react to a situation. Having a calming conversation might just put things in perspective and help them to think right about the situation.

3. A big time out – sometimes kids need space to sort things out in their own mind. I know I do at times! Time alone in their bedroom, in their cubby house or with their pets might give them a chance to calm down on their own.

4. A big apology – sometimes we may be the one who exasperated our kids. We may need to humbly go to our kids and apologise for what we have done or said. We may be the parents, but we are not always right!

Let’s all purpose in our hearts today to be the best Father’s that we can be. Let’s chose to build up our kids, train them in the way of the Lord and not exasperate them as the Bible warns us not to do.

God Bless,
Dave